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自我提升篇:改變個性的步驟 -- C. Jarrett
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2025/03/14 17:22 瀏覽97 |回應1 |推薦1 |
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個性不但會影響一個人職業生涯的成功程度,它更左右一個人對自己的生活是否滿意,從而決定她/他一生的快樂和幸福。 此處要強調:行動的重要!知而不行,是為不知。 請參照《討人喜的5秒鐘聊天撇步》一文;該文也提到:「內向型個性」、「排隊等候情境」、以及「行動」的重要性。 The simple ways you can change your personality, according to a cognitive neuroscientist Want to become more confident, extroverted or assertive? Science shows that with a few simple changes, you can unlock your best self. Christian Jarrett, 03/09/25 As a few thousand vaguely patronising Instagram posts will tell you – every new day is an opportunity to turn over a new leaf. Start afresh, be better. But where to start? Well, you could adopt a new hobby or set yourself a small challenge. Or maybe you could get much more radical and change your personality. In scientific terms, personality is simply a set of traits that reflect how you tend to think, feel and behave. It might sound harsh or confronting to suggest changing your personality, but many surveys suggest that most people wish to alter at least some of their traits. Psychologists largely recognise there are five key personality traits: openness to experience (your willingness to try new things); conscientiousness (your self-discipline, ambition and orderliness); extroversion (how you're drawn to fun); agreeableness (how warm, friendly and trusting you are); and neuroticism (how much you experience negative emotions, such as worry and doubt). Extroverts tend to be happier and enjoy social interactions more than they expect, even when they initially feel reluctant. - Photo credit: Getty 請至原網頁觀看照片 Unlike moods or emotions, personality traits are relatively stable. If you don’t see your friend for a few years, you still recognise them as essentially the same person when you finally do meet up. It might sound far-fetched, then, to change such a fundamental aspect of ourselves. But psychologists have been stress-testing personality, and their findings suggest that not only is personality change possible, it’s actually a jolly sensible idea. For instance, through a series of studies published in 2023 and 2024, a research team based across various European universities showed that an app was able to help people change their personalities in the ways they wanted. Because of its international inception, PEACH (PErsonality coACH) was only available to download in German – but an English version will soon be on its way. Participants had to choose a trait to focus on and then the app gave them self-help tips, prompting them to adopt activities in line with that trait – such as nudging them to do an important task rather than procrastinating (to boost their conscientiousness), or taking a photo of something beautiful every day (to boost their openness). PEACH not only shifted the desired traits, but the changes lasted even after a year. What’s more, the changes were associated with increases in overall life satisfaction. Getting started If you're interested in changing your traits, a great place to start is a personality test that taps into the previously mentioned 'Big Five'. There are various free options online. Have a look at your scores and think about how – and more importantly, why – you’d like to change. Rather than thinking of your traits in abstract terms, consider your hopes and ambitions in life. What could you change to address those aims? Do you want to increase your extroversion to make more friends? Or boost your conscientiousness to succeed more in your career? Another approach is to consider how the different traits have been linked with various outcomes in life. For instance, extroverts tend to be happier, while neurotic types tend to suffer more from depression and anxiety. Conscientious people generally tend to be more successful in their chosen career paths. Meanwhile, having greater openness has been found to help protect against dementia and agreeable people tend to experience less stress. A blueprint for change Psychologists have identified several key ingredients for successful personality change. First, you need to want to change. Second, you need to commit to doing things differently – that includes changing how you think and behave. Consider your personality as being grounded in various habits of thought and behaviour. To change it, you need to change those habits – that takes dedication, repetition and perseverance. Studies suggest introverts often find acting like an extrovert isn't as daunting as they might imagine. - Photo credit: Getty Images 請至原網頁觀看照片 The PEACH app helped users in this respect by prompting them to think in terms of ‘if-then’ principles. These are small rules, such as: “If I’m waiting in a line, then I’ll make an effort to talk to the person next to me” (as a method of boosting your extroversion). Finally, you need to check in, to see how your efforts are paying off and make tweaks. It's helpful to think of ways to change both from the inside-out (adopting new habits of thought, for instance), and the outside-in (recognising that your environment and the people you interact with also shape you). If you’re serious about changing one or more of your traits, it’s worth not only learning new skills and habits, but also taking a look at things like your work culture or your friendship group, to consider whether they’re conducive to your personal development goals. Neuroticism Surveys show that lowering neuroticism is the most popular change to make. If you succeed, you’ll likely benefit – one study from 2013 estimated that a small reduction in neuroticism would boost your wellbeing by the equivalent of an extra $314,000 income per year (that’s over $400,000 in today’s money, or approximately £312,000). If you’re a high scorer in neuroticism, it’s likely that you experience many negative thoughts, such as self-criticism and worry. Schools of psychotherapy abound with tips and tricks for getting these thoughts under control. Neurotic individuals are more prone to experiencing negative emotions like anxiety and self-doubt, which can significantly impact their overall well-being. - Photo credit: Getty 請至原網頁觀看照片 One of my favourites is the so-called ‘mind-bus’ technique. Imagine that you’re the driver of a bus and your difficult thoughts are the passengers. You can then have fun, for example, getting them to sing what they’re nagging you with, or telling them you’re in charge. The idea is to help create a distance between yourself and your thoughts so that they’ll trouble you less. Conscientiousness After lowering neuroticism, the next most sought-after personality change is to become more conscientious. It’s a good choice because more conscientiousness is associated with receiving more work promotions and living longer. One way to get started is to realise that the secret to higher conscientiousness is not having ironclad willpower. It’s about avoiding temptations in the first place. Psychologists talk about a ‘temptation generation cycle’ and you can get into the habit of disrupting it at different stages. First of all, you can remove temptations (don’t leave the cookie jar out; don’t take your phone to bed). Secondly, you can influence your appraisal of temptations – tell yourself that the cookies look old and your phone makes you stressed. The next step is to make the alternatives sparkle. Remind yourself of how good you’ll feel after you’ve eaten some fruit, or how rewarding it’ll be to read a book. Extroversion Surveys show the next most sought-after trait change is to become more of an extrovert. This could be a shrewd move – many recent studies have shown that when introverts act more extroverted, they enjoy it much more than they think they will. They’ve even reported that it makes them feel more authentic. One fun way to boost your extroversion is to learn a different language that makes you feel less inhibited (research suggests Spanish might be a good choice, but find what works for you). A completely different approach could be to hone your flirtation skills – yes, really. A study from 2022 found that just three hours of training was sufficient to help make gains in extroversion. Ultimately, these are just some initial ideas for how you can influence your traits. To achieve any meaningful change, you’ll need to stick at it and make a habit of your new ways of living. Dr. Christian Jarrett is a cognitive neuroscientist, science writer and author. He is the Editor of Psyche, the sister magazine to Aeon that illuminates the human condition through psychology, philosophy and the arts. Jarrett also created the British Psychological Society's Research Digest blog and was the first ever staff journalist on the Society's magazine, The Psychologist. He is author of Great Myths of The Brain and Be Who You Want: Unlocking the Science of Personality Change. Read more on wellbeing: * 7 biggest lessons on building lasting habits, from a motivational psychologist * Could this be the bold new future of depression treatment? * I'm a neuroscientist. Here's the surprising truth about TikTok 'brain rot' * What is a collapsed narcissist? * Which generation is the most hypersensitive? * Why your brain won't shut up at night (and the simple way to shush it)
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增強閱讀記憶的七個方法 ---- Vincent Carlos
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2025/03/17 18:05 推薦1 |
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本文附有照片和統計圖。可惜原網頁需訂閱才能進入,我又不知道如何複製;不過,我在網上查到相關資訊,請利用所附超連結。並請參考我的《讀後》(該欄第二篇)。
7 Strategies To Help You Remember 80% of Everything You Read Honestly, each strategy by itself will help you remember at least 60% of everything you read. Vincent Carlos, 03/03/24 Photo by Yiqun Tang on Unsplash 請至原網頁觀看照片 It happens all the time… You read an amazing book such as Outlive by Peter Attia or Atomic Habits by James Clear. But then when you try to have a conversation about the book with someone, you can’t seem to remember anything about it. It’s frustrating, right? Of course, it is! You just spent a whole month reading this book and it turns out that what you thought was an investment in knowledge turned out to be mere entertainment. It feels like you just wasted all that time reading. And the worst part? It happens again and again and again. You start to think that maybe you just have a bad memory. But let me just stop you right there because here’s the thing about memory: Forgetting most of what you read isn’t a character flaw. Instead, it’s the way you read books that’s flawed. How do I know? I know because I used to feel the same way. I’d read a book, I’d claim it was one of the best books I ever read, and then I’d immediately forget what was in it. It sucked. However, once I understood how memory works, everything changed for me. Now… * I can read a book and easily retain 80% of what was said in it. * I can explain complex concepts during simple conversations. * I can recall interesting ideas and include them in my writing. Finally, I feel like reading is a true investment in my knowledge. And if I can do it, you can do it too. So if you want to stop forgetting everything you read, then here are 7 simple strategies that will help you remember at least 80% of everything you read: 1) Stop Allowing Yourself To Be Pulled Away Have you ever heard of Nelson Dellis? Here’s a picture of him: Source: Nelson Dellis’ Instagram 請至原網頁觀看照片 If you’ve never heard of him, Nelson Dellis is an absolute legend in the memory competitor world. * He’s memorized 339 digits in five minutes. * He’s memorized 217 names in fifteen minutes. * He’s memorized an entire deck of cards in less than 30 seconds. * He’s even won the USA Memory Championship a bunch of times and ranks very high globally. So how did he do it? According to Nelson, it starts with the obvious: Pay attention! Makes sense. I mean, how else are you supposed to remember something you read if you aren’t even paying attention to it in the first place? That’s right, you’re not. So let me say it again just in case you weren’t paying attention the first time you read it: If you want to remember more of what you read, then you need to pay better attention. Unfortunately, paying attention is a skill many of us struggle with. Luckily, there are 2 tricks you can use to set your mind up so that you’re more likely to pay attention while you read: 1) Get rid of any distractions when you read. Put your phone in your pocket, close your laptop, and listen to lyricless music. Don’t try to pay attention half-assed. This means not singing along to music while you’re reading and not checking your phone every 2 minutes. Commit to paying attention to whatever it is you’re reading. It’s not that hard. 2) While you’re reading, constantly ask yourself the following question: “How can I use this in my life?” Asking yourself this question will help keep you focused on looking for those important lines in a book that are going to stick with you long-term. 9 times out of 10, you’ll find that these 2 tips will do the trick. 2) Pretend You’re Watching A Movie Have you ever read an amazing book, but then afterwards, couldn’t remember anything about it? If so, then here’s what you should do the next time you’re reading so this never happens to you again: First, pay attention! Remember the previous idea? Second, as you read, pretend you’re watching a movie. Essentially, try to visualize what’s happening in your mind. Obviously, you can’t visualize everything you’re reading, but you can envision the general idea of what’s being said. Personally, when I’m reading a book, I like to imagine what I’m reading is being played out on a big movie theater screen and I’m in the audience sitting down just watching it all happen. Why does this help? Because it turns out that our brains are far better equipped to remember certain types of information better than others. According to memory research, visual images are a lot stickier to our brains than abstract stuff like random words. So whatever it is you’re reading, try to visualize it as if it were an actual memory of your own. Yes, this method won’t guarantee that 100 percent of the details will stick in your brain, but you’ll have a significantly better chance of remembering what you read later on. 3) Handwrite (Don’t Type) Interesting Ideas You’ve Read As humans, we’re terrible at retaining information. We forget almost all of the things we read about. However, when we write things down, we’re far more likely to retain it. This is exactly what Beethoven used to do when he composed music. In the book Managing Oneself, the founder of modern business management Peter Drucker says, “Beethoven left behind an enormous number of sketchbooks, yet he said he never actually looked at them when he composed. Asked why he kept them, he is reported to have replied, “If I don’t write it down immediately, I forget it right away. If I put it into a sketchbook, I never forget it and I never have to look it up again.” According to multiple studies, when you handwrite your notes, you retain more information. Why? Because when you handwrite notes, you’re not going to write down every single word you read. Instead, you’re going to write down only the necessary words. This helps you differentiate between what’s important from what’s not important. This helps you synthesize the information better. This is why whenever I learn about an interesting idea, I write it down immediately. I write it down so that I can better understand, internalize, and remember it better.
Even if you don’t ever re-read what it is you wrote down, the simple act of writing it down will increase your ability to retain information better. 4) Learn To Fully Interact With The Book Reading is supposed to be an active process, not a passive one. Therefore, if you’re reading a book and you’re not fully interacting with the material, then you’re going to naturally forget most of it. So how do you learn to be an active reader? You can do this in many ways, but here are 4 strategies I highly recommend: 1. Underline or highlight important or memorable statements or passages. 2. Add symbols such as stars for key lines that are impactful to you or question marks to indicate lines you’re skeptical about or things you want to research further. 3. Write down any thoughts or questions you have in the margins of the pages. 4. After you read the entire book, go back and put sticky notes on the most important statements or passages in the book. By doing these 4 things, you’ll be able to take the book off the shelf at any time and, by opening it to any page, refresh your memory of it. Now, you may be hesitant to do this stuff because the idea of writing in a book scares you. But don’t be. Even if I had a book that was worth $1,000, I’d still do this. Why? Because what’s important is not the book itself, but the ideas in the book. And it would be a reading sin to not get everything you can out of a book. 5) Apply What You’ve Read I’m sad to say this, but when it comes to remembering what you read, highlighting and note taking is basically worthless. Now, you’re probably thinking, “What? Didn’t you just talk about the importance of highlighting and taking notes in the previous section?” Yes, but let me explain… Highlighting in itself actually doesn’t help you retain information. The only benefit of highlighting is that it will alert you to what you should look at when you go back and re-read. Because here’s the thing about human memory: We tend to remember things that we use. So if you read a book on health, the way you’re going to remember what you read is by changing how you approach your health. If you read a health book and you highlight a bunch of passages, but you don’t change how you eat, work out, or sleep, then you’re not going to remember anything. Therefore, if you don’t find ways to implement the ideas you read into your life in some way, then you aren’t going to remember them. As a result, you’re going to have this constant feeling of like “Wow, I read all these books and I have no idea what’s in them.” Yeah, because you didn’t do anything actionable afterwards! 6) Teach Someone Else What You’ve Read Imagine you had a bucket, and every time you tried to fill that bucket with water, 90% of it leaked out. If this was happening to you, would you keep on filling the bucket or would you fix the leaks? You’d most likely fix the leaks. Unfortunately, when it comes to learning, people just keep on filling their bucket and never think about the leaks. Because of this, almost everybody wastes 90% of their learning simply because they don’t understand what’s known as “The Learning Pyramid.” 請至原網頁觀看「學習金字塔」統計/示意圖(並請參閱此處和此處) Essentially, the Learning Pyramid says that you’ll retain 90% of the information you read about if you simply decide to teach it to someone else. Why? Because similarly to handwriting notes you find interesting, when you try to teach something you’ve read, you’re not going to be using the author’s words verbatim. Instead, you’re going to be using your own words. This forces your brain to learn the information better. So the next time you read an interesting idea, make an effort to share it with someone else. Simply ask a family member or a friend, “Hey real quick, can I share an interesting idea from this book I’m reading?” And for 2–3 minutes, talk about what you just read. Remember, a concept is never just learned through reading. Reading only has a 10% retention rate. That’s terrible. This is why concepts need to be talked about in order for them to actually be retained. 7) I Can’t Say The Following Enough: Review Review Review There are some people who can read a book once and retain every single piece of information in that book perfectly. But, for 99% of us, the majority of information we read in a book will be easily forgotten. This is what’s known as “The Forgetting Curve,” which states: We forget almost every newly acquired piece of information within the first 24 hours. Exactly how much you forget in the first 24 hours is different for each person.
But here’s the thing… Unless you review the information you just learned, much of it will slip out of your brain after the first day, with more slipping out in the days after, leaving you with just a fraction of what you originally learned. The Forgetting Curve 請至原網頁觀看「記憶衰退曲線」統計/示意圖(並請參閱此處和此處) This is interesting because when we read a book, we feel like we’re retaining what we’re reading. The information is flowing in, we’re understanding it, and it’s all piecing together, but it actually doesn’t stick in our heads unless we review what we actually read. Unfortunately, there’s no way around this. You have to review. But what type of review should you be doing? It’s called spaced repetition review! Essentially, you review what you’ve learned at regular intervals after you learn something. There are many strategies you can use to do this, but the one strategy that I recommend you use is what’s known as “The Rule of 5.” The Rule of 5 says that after you learn something you want to remember long-term, you should ideally review the piece of information you’re trying to memorize at the following intervals: * 5 times the first day. * Once a day for 5 days. * Once a week for 5 weeks. Then after that, you’re good to go! Remember, information only gets reinforced into your long-term memory by reviewing it. So if you don’t regularly review what you’ve learned, then you have a high chance of easily forgetting it. However, by using The Rule of 5, you can easily retain any piece of information you read in a book for the rest of your life. Connect Deeper If you resonated with this article, then join thousands of others who have subscribed to my book club where I talk about the best ideas from the books I read! Written by Vincent Carlos @ vincentcarlos.substack.com Published in Books Are Our Superpower
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