An Understanding 

We are all worried about our families, whereas we should be worried about ourselves. This is not selfishness, but an understanding that when you help yourself to become better and better, you can help your families deal with life better and better.

Taken from The Spider's Web, vol. 3, p. 46 –Rev. Chariji 

修身而後齊家, 師父用了不同的方法解釋.

比這個官方發表的翻譯, 簡潔又精確多了:

"一种认识"

大家无不担心自己的家庭，而最应该担心的实际上是他们自己。这并不是自私自利而是出于一种认识，即只要自己不断进步，家庭自然就能更好的面对生活。

查立济《蜘蛛网》第3卷，第46页。

修身與齊家, 必須兩者兼顧!

Integrate 

When dealing with the members of your family, you must love them and be gentle and patient. You must not neglect the family for spirituality, nor spirituality for the sake of the family. Remember, the bird flies on two wings.

Taken from The Spider's Web, vol. 3, p. 46 –Rev. Chariji 

簡單的觀念, 一句話就表達清楚了.

官方發表的翻譯:

"缺一不可"

 面对家庭成员，你应该持温和与耐心的态度、设法去关心他们，爱他们。切不可为灵修而忽略了家庭，亦不能因家庭而忽视灵修。要知道，鸟必备两个翅膀才能飞翔。

查里济《蜘蛛网》第3卷，第46页。