男人有外遇的五句老實話
第一句實話：已婚男人愛上自己妻子以外的女人，不一定就是婚姻不幸福或是太愛這個外遇女人。
當一個男人在婚外表達愛情時，心裏只想佔有這個女人，他不會幼稚地想到要和她結婚，他覺得自己老婆不錯。而女人在表達愛情時往往腦海裏就會閃現出兩人身穿婚紗站在教堂的情景。這種天壤之別的心態，構成了男人和女人在婚外戀時的巨大心理差異。
一個男人在經歷了婚姻的新鮮期(大概就是兩年吧)後便開始在心裏夢想有出軌的機會。但家庭對他來說，是一件很安全很合身很隨意的貼身背心。他在茫茫人海中苦苦尋覓著被他稱之為高尚的愛情，但骨子裏卻是一幕幕黃色的插曲。
他有著一個對他很滿意、很信任的妻子，這種信任更鞭策他加快步伐找到一位紅顏知己。他對他的妻子不能說就沒有愛，他甚至對家庭還有著較重的責任感，他會為小孩的成長付出很多心血，會因為妻子有一天突然得了疾病而鞍前馬後，他在家人和外人面前絕對是一個好丈夫好男人。
第二句實話：已婚的小有成績的外遇男人，他們身上的吸引力多數是妻子給造化出來的。
他們身上成熟男人的魅力，一直在妻子的欣賞中，滋生著驕傲和自信，他的眸子裏因有妻子的柔情而顯露出安寧和溫馨，他在妻子的教誨中懂得了如何表達感情……
他不會去那種下三爛的地方，那樣既不安全又消費不起，找一個安全又不花錢的女人，只需穿一件“愛情”外衣，豐富的感情世界就得到了充實，性的問題又解決得遊刃有餘。
第三句實話：其實，就算不遇到你，他也會與其他的女人一見鍾情。
這種男人可能會痛恨自己不幸的婚姻，也可能不痛恨，這和向你表達“愛情”好像沒有什麼直接關係。他會對這個女人說：我一生中最愛兩個女人，一個是你，另一個是我媽。
他也並不是對這個女人沒一點感情，他時時也想著她，出差在外會買上一份比給妻子的禮物稍微便宜的東西。在家裏也常常真的因你而對妻子心不在焉。這正是他要的感覺，他希望在他穩定的生活狀態下，有著年少戀愛時節的激情和生活的多姿多彩。
有時，在激情時也會動過和你結婚的念頭，但事後又會理智地回絕自己不太堅強的靈魂。聰明的女人會發現，那種一有外遇就要離婚的傻男人是越來越少了。
第四句實話：男人只想與你戀愛，對婚外女人想嫁給他的想法都是又高興又害怕。
你要嫁給他，男人得意的是，這個女人還真愛他，害怕的卻是，會被女人無怨無悔地纏上。這種關係的結束，大多都是從那個女人提出讓他離婚，她想嫁給他的那一刻開始的。
不過，外遇男人不想很快離開她，便採取迂回戰術，於是，就像那個男人許諾“2005年會跟妻子離婚”娶小青一樣的諾言就誕生了。直到女人熬不住了，不顧紅顏大怒發誓離開他。問題是女人大多不願承認自己愛錯了人，當男人一句溫存話外加幾滴鱷魚淚，女人又輕易地忘了先前的傷疤，這樣來來去去，男人患上了驚恐症，女人也患上了非他不嫁的瘋狂症。
第五句實話：大凡多次找藉口不離婚而又對你拼命表白愛情的男人，在心裏他就沒打算和你有婚姻。
他不想與你有婚姻，他就會找一個藉口與你分手。這種時候，他已經很後悔和你把關係發展得太深，弄得自己疲於奔命。他此時考慮的是採取什麼方式與你了結，最好是你等不了一走了之，或許你還覺得對不起他，不管怎樣千萬不能影響他的事業和家庭。
在你寫下訣別信準備離去的那個晚上，他會跪在你的面前，流著渾濁的淚說他心已碎，他會把你珍藏在心底最深處，在每一個有音樂響起的夜裏，他都會痛心地差一點抽筋死去。
Women beat men in the adultery stakes: Ladies who cheat have 2.3 secret lovers compared to 1.8 for the blokes
By David Baker
PUBLISHED: 18:08 GMT, 17 May 2012 | UPDATED: 18:38 GMT, 17 May 2012
When it comes to playing away women tend to rack up more lovers than men, according to self-confessed adulterers.
Research into the behaviour of 4,000 cheats claims women are more promiscuous, having an average of 2.3 secret lovers compared to a mere 1.8 for men.
The UK Adultery Survey 2012 found that once women decide to play away they are far more likely to play the field in search of love.
Adultery: According to research women are more promiscuous among self confessed cheats
While men claim the pursuit of sexual excitement, boredom with their marriages and the need of an ego boost are the main reasons for cheating, women say they are looking for emotional fulfillment, an improvement to their self esteem and romance.
Female adulterers are also far more prone to falling in love with their illicit lovers than their male equivalents.
Emily Pope of Undercover Lovers, a dating site for married people seeking affairs with some 600,000 members, said the results of the survey challenged the commonly held view that men are more adulterous than women.
'Once they have made the huge decision to have an affair, women have far more opportunity to actually find someone to cheat with and are generally in control of deciding if and when to consummate the relationship once they do,' she said.
The survey also found that women are likely to be the first to get itchy feet in a marriage.
While unfaithful men don’t have their first affair until almost six years of married life the average female cheater strays just five years after exchanging wedding vows.
Playing away: Women tend to cheat as they look for romance and emotional fulfillment while men said they play away in the pursuit of sexual excitement and boredom with their marriages
They are also usually younger than men when they stray with the average female adulterer starting at 37 compared to 42 for men.
Emily added: 'More and more neurological research is revealing that male and female brains are programmed differently when it comes to relationships.
'The results of our survey bear this out, with our adulteresses seemingly seeking something far more emotionally meaningful from their affairs than their male partners.'
Both sexes agree that monogamy is an unnatural state for humans even though 76 per cent of women and 67 per cent of men claim to still love the spouse they are cheating on and more than 80 per cent of both sexes intend to stay married.
However, the research also found that many adulterers are hypocrites.
More than 40 per cent of women and almost 30 per cent of male would ask for a divorce if they discovered their spouse was having an affair.
Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2145925/Women-beat-men-adultery-stakes-Ladies-2-3-secret-lovers-affair-compared-1-8-blokes.html#ixzz1vjTBziLm
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英國每日郵報17日報導，調查4000名坦承曾有姦情的男女及其行為發現，女性平均有2.3個秘密情人，而男性則有1.8個小三。平均而言女性在婚後5年出軌，她們希望透過第三者獲得情感上的滿足、愛情，並提高自我價值感。
